So I was minding my own business...

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This is the thing.
You all know that I can’t get pregnant and that I did all those fertility treatments.
No, I don’t hate your baby or your pregnancy or you.
Yes, I need to process a pregnancy announcement on my own time.
But what I hate is that someone stopped talking to me and gossip about me and my infertility when it was time to try for a baby. And I was actively left out of a group because of it.
That’s bullshit.
Especially when they all can’t shut up about how “we expat” need to take care of each other because we are all BFFs and we are all far from family and we all have each other’s back.
No one gave a shit about all my treatments except when it was time for gossip time. Then, sure you all wanted to know details.
Furthermore, how dare you complain about how it took so long for you to get pregnant knowing my history. It took you three months?!? sorry, welcome to sex education 101. Your baby is almost 2 years old and want to start trying for another soon because you don’t want to be one of “those old moms”.
How dare you saying all this to me knowing my history?
I wish you well and it’s your loss because I could have knit you a beautiful baby blanket, too.
End rant

Filed under Infertility airing grievances ivf DEIVF childless moving on

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Someone ruined my cupcake outing!!!
Yeah, whatever bitch, you know exactly what you did to me.
This stupid “expat” circle, I do my best to do my own thing, which I do a lot, but sometimes we all run into each other. At the cupcake cafe because of course that’s how the life is.

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geekbap:

pewresearch:

Our data finds that on weekends, dads find more time for leisure than moms.


Dad’s “find” more leisure time, eh?  Like, it was hidden under the rug and the mom’s didn’t look hard for it?
"Fathers take full advantage of the weekends." 
“With moms scaling back their time for child care..”
Ugh. I want people to pay attention to how these discussions are framed.  Men don’t magically “find” more time for leisure; this implies that if women take less time for leisure, they are doing something wrong.  It also ignores the fact that part of the reason dads can have more leisure time is that the mom’s are watching the children. Does no one realize if the dad’s watched the kids more, the moms would have more leisure time?  
No because it’s too busy implying that if mothers do just that, they are somehow neglecting their children.  How does one “scale back their time” for parenting anyway? When fathers go play golf for 8 hours on a Saturday, is that “scaling back” too? Oh wait, it’s called “taking advantage of the weekends”!  ::eye-roll::
This whole article is massively irritating.




When people don’t know the real reason why you don’t have children, men will tell you, jokingly or not, all the excuses and sneaky ways they use to don’t help with their children or with household in general.
They stay late in the office, they “work” on their email/projects, business dinners are encourage, they travel more, or go play golf because it’s expected, etc.
D has been in the receiving end of those confessions, all while telling him how lucky he’s that he has all this free time.
I, myself, have heard it many times during drunk business dinners. It’s a stab in heart most times, others just a confirmation how much of an asshole people can be.

geekbap:

pewresearch:

Our data finds that on weekends, dads find more time for leisure than moms.

Dad’s “find” more leisure time, eh?  Like, it was hidden under the rug and the mom’s didn’t look hard for it?

"Fathers take full advantage of the weekends." 

With moms scaling back their time for child care..”

Ugh. I want people to pay attention to how these discussions are framed.  Men don’t magically “find” more time for leisure; this implies that if women take less time for leisure, they are doing something wrong.  It also ignores the fact that part of the reason dads can have more leisure time is that the mom’s are watching the children. Does no one realize if the dad’s watched the kids more, the moms would have more leisure time?  

No because it’s too busy implying that if mothers do just that, they are somehow neglecting their children.  How does one “scale back their time” for parenting anyway? When fathers go play golf for 8 hours on a Saturday, is that “scaling back” too? Oh wait, it’s called “taking advantage of the weekends”!  ::eye-roll::

This whole article is massively irritating.

When people don’t know the real reason why you don’t have children, men will tell you, jokingly or not, all the excuses and sneaky ways they use to don’t help with their children or with household in general.

They stay late in the office, they “work” on their email/projects, business dinners are encourage, they travel more, or go play golf because it’s expected, etc.

D has been in the receiving end of those confessions, all while telling him how lucky he’s that he has all this free time.

I, myself, have heard it many times during drunk business dinners. It’s a stab in heart most times, others just a confirmation how much of an asshole people can be.

Filed under childfree Infertility

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The lovely Inessita came through Berlin and stayed in my place last night.
She awesome and we talked for hours and she even brought me macarons.
Best guest ever.

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I went to this food festival/party by the river today and I ate so much that right now I’m drinking warm water with baking soda and lemon juice, while doing yoga poses on my bedroom floor because I have the worst indigestion.
OMG, you guys, I’m in so much pain.
Recap:
Latte macchiato
Cornbread
Wild mushroom pie
A coke
Chocolate macaron
Cheeseburger
Strawberry macaron
Riesling wine
D ate a vegetarian pie, homemade ice cream sandwich, Italian burrito thing and 2 Augustiner beer. He’s fine, of course.